JH’s school was closed for 1.5 weeks due to positive covid cases in his school. Hence he’d been attending daycare for his virtual classes. Last night, the conversation below happens:
JH: “Mommy, can I bring the charger to daycare?”
Me: “Why do you need the charger?”
JH: “Because I see all my friends bring the charger for their computers & phone. I want to bring it too.”
Me: “We always make sure your IPAD is fully charged, it’s enough for you to use it for the whole day. Also, you should know yourself, the more things you bring, the more you forget to bring it home.”
JH: “Yeah mommy, I think you’re right. I don’t have to follow other people. Teacher HX said I should be myself because everyone is different.”
At that moment, I felt proud that he learns to see himself as an individual person, not having to succumb to the peer pressure of ‘’just because others do it.” It might seem like nothing to most parents, but given the same situation 2 years ago, my kid would probably throw a tantrum if I told him that he shouldn’t bring the charger. Even after undergoing behavioral therapy for the last 2 years, he still tells us that he doesn’t have any friends or that his friends didn’t want to include him in their playtime. As much as it breaks out heart, we know it will be a continuous journey to help him develop social skills and competencies to make and keep (true) friends.